Anais' Big Idea

Here's something interesting I just read. Anais Nin wrote a book called the House of Incest, and surprisingly enough, in this piece of writing, the incest she refers to is actually a metaphor. It refers to seeking out someone who is just like yourself, and the things you love about them are the things you share with them, thus leading you to really just loving yourself. It is easier and safer and in ways satisfying, but ultimately not really love because it is not expansive and accepting and embracing that which is foreign. I found this to be interesting, because what I am always on about is wanting to be with someone who IS just like me, and lamenting how much Rob and I have in common and connect on. It is true, though, and I don't nesessarily think it is wrong to seek out those qualities in another that you love within yourself. I mean, does that count as narcissism, or just wanting to connect with someone and not have to go explaining yourself and your interests every ten minutes?